3 QUESTIONS!

Time to get honest with yourself.
 
Answer these questions for each of area of your life where you have specific goals (health, finances, relationships, career or life work) It’s best to write the questions down.
 
1. What are you doing that’s working?
2. What do you need to stop doing?
3. What do you need to start doing?
 
Your solutions are in your answers!

Identifying behaviors that are keeping us from our dreams, wishes, wants, and goals is crucial to the change that is needed to get there.

Thank you to Dr. Phil and his book Life Code for this inspiration!

What are you resisting? Why are you resisting?

Resistance is a very strong very real powerful force that seems to rear it's ugliest head whenever we even begin to think about doing something that will awaken our spirit. Resistance can be about fear and it is restraining you. The job of resistance is to keep you small and powerless. Your job is to step up, mighty sword in hand and cut through the those binds that are holding you down and keeping you from living a life that honors your values. Resistance keeps you from being a winner.

If you value peace and serenity, then why are you living a life of chaos? You value freedom and spontaneity, but you remain at that dead end mind numbing job watching the clock tick tock away until 5PM each day. You have a song in your heart, and a story that is waiting to be written, but you allow other "busy" work to keep you occupied. Someone out there needs to hear your story, the story that comes from your heart and your lips. Resistance is the killer of dreams. It leaves words unspoken, bodies unfit, goals unreached, and projects undone.

The following  excerpt is from Steven Pressfield's The War of Art: Break Through the Blocks and Win Your
Inner Creative Battles:

"You know, Hitler wanted to be an artist. At eighteen he took his inheritance , seven hundred kronen, and moved to Vienna to live and study. He applied to the Academy of Fine Arts, and later to the School of Architecture. Ever see one of his paintings? Neither have I. Resistance beat him. Call it an overstatement but I'll say it anyway; it was easier for Hitler to start World War II than it was for him to face a blank canvas." 

Now imagine, just imagine what inner struggles and battles Hitler had with resistance. That is some pretty intense resistance! He allowed it to overcome and beat him down and what an absolute horrifying outcome it had. Hitler was a powerful influential man. What an extreme example of misuse of power. What an extreme example of what happens when we allow our inner values and talents go to waste. To go from someone who wanted to express himself artistically, to someone who wanted to wipe out entire nationalities. 

When we allow resistance to win, it turns on us and turns into an ugly demon. Resistance is strong and you have to fight it with everything you've got to win your battle. Your creative muse is whispering to you all the time, are you tuned in to her soft loving voice? The more resistance you are experiencing means you are most assuredly on the right track! Resistance only shows up when we are trying to do something for the good of ourselves, others or our planet. Resistance only wins when you wave the white flag. And when resistance wins, you lose. The world loses.

Life was not meant to live in a semi-happy state. Life is meant to be lived to the fullest, and that fullest is representation of you expressing your values and talents in an unique and authentic way; a way that only you can do. Fighting resistance is giving your muse a voice and allowing her to lift you up and sing praises along with you. It is releasing your inner rock star!

Identify where your resistance is coming from and then you can break it down into smaller steps to identify solutions. "We are ready to push back" is a saying you will hear when a plane is ready to depart the gate and prepare to hit the runway and take flight. Are you ready to push back? Isn't it time you allowed your dream, your business, your goals to take flight?

It's time to Awaken Your Spirit! Tear down that white flag and stomp it into the ground! Resistance has no place in the life of a winner!


 

Low self-esteem is a false perception of oneself.

OK. Now please go back and read it again.

Did you get that?

If you have low self-esteem then you ARE better than you think you are. Do you see the problem? It is not YOU, it is your THINKING! When your self-esteem improves, it's because your self-knowledge has improved! 

A huge thank you for this insight goes to Mark Tyrrell, Co-founder Uncommon Knowledge
Author of 10 Steps to Solid Self Esteem

Whose voice is that inside my head?

Before absorbing what the little voice inside your head is telling you, stop and check where the voice is coming from. Is the voice critical, judging, bullying, hateful or insulting? Chances are the voice belongs to someone from your past, maybe even your childhood. A critical parent? Judgmental nasty teacher? A domineering impossible-to-please boss? Maybe the voice is from that last nasty break up you had. 

Those voices are just words, they are not your inner knowing.

The inner voice that belongs to you can sometimes be drowned out by the loud noises from negative people from our past. But if you pay attention to the message it is trying to convey, your inner voice, your true voice, your inner wisdom is one that is uplifting and loving. Any negative messages need to be hushed, so learn to override them with love, gentleness and wisdom.

Listen to and trust your inner wisdom.

How do you define success and how will you know when you reach it?

Most  of us have goals. Our goals are unique to each of us based upon our desires of things we hope to achieve, acquire and experience. Whether your goals are health related, financial, spiritual, educational, or about your own personal development, the underlying intention is to reach that goal. 

We all define success differently. My level of financial success may not even be close to what someone else would define as being financially successful. Reaching my ideal weight goal is more than likely different than some other woman of the exact same height and age. Our own perception and beliefs come into play when we picture what it will look like when we reach
success in any specific area of our own lives. Of course it is important when setting a goal to track your progress, otherwise how will you know if you are on or off course?

Our concepts around success may very likely have been formed by parents, teachers, colleagues or other influential people in our lives. What is important is that you are not striving to achieve someone else's level of success, but your own. Make sure it is your goal, and not one of your parents trying to live vicariously through you. Others may be trying to achieve a desire of theirs by directly (or indirectly) attempting to influence or encourage you to do something that just does not "sit right" with you. Follow the desires of your won heart. It is important to focus on the things you choose to achieve, vs. what you think you "should" do based upon what others expect of you.

So how will you know when you get there? How will you know when you have reached success in any specific area of your life? What it looks like when you get there can be a determining factor (the number on the scale, the dollar amount in your bank account, the published book sitting in the bookstore window, the finished art project) but much more importantly is the FEELING associated with reaching the goal - that is your truest gauge or indicator! The feeling you get when you have achieved a certain goal should be indication enough that you have reached your definition of success. 

Feelings of pride, joyfulness to outright jubilation and euphoria are some of the feelings people claim to experience when they've reached a goal successfully. If you get to your goal and these feelings are not what you are experiencing, then perhaps your definition of success has changed or your desires have changed. But if feelings from simple satisfaction, happiness, self-approval to extreme pleasure are what you are experiencing, then my friend, congratulations ~ YOU can claim a triumphant success!