I work with a number of Life Coach clients who all claim the same thing. How exhausted they are being a mom! The carpool, the dance classes, the laundry, the play dates, the bake sales, the chores, the budget, the sleep-overs can all be daunting as well as both physically and emotionally draining to a mom! They all say they don't have time for themselves, or feel it is selfish if they do take some "me" time. Let me tell you, you are no good to your kids if you are only showing up exhausted, drained and checked out.
Our children are always watching. Model for your kids behaviors that are an expression of self-love. Let them know you are going to the gym for YOU. Be sure when you take a bubble bath, that they know it is alone time for you to rejuvenate and revitalize yourself. Get a massage once a month, or once a week! Read a chapter in a book. Go for a walk, take a yoga class. Work out daily, make yourself a priority! Do something that feeds your spirit, which allows you to show that nurturing yourself does not make you a selfish mom, it actually makes you a better mom! Self-nurturing is not self-ish!
When you are a parent, you have a built-in audience. Be sure the show you are putting on shows your children that you are the star of the show, the star of your own life. If you aren't the star of your own life, then who is? There are no stand-ins. No one else can be the star in your life but YOU! You will be proud to see your children will grow up to be the stars in their own lives as well.
This post was inspired by Dr. Phil's latest book Life Code. I will be teaching and coaching around new methodologies from this book with my clients. I love working with stressed out moms and finding ways to help them put themselves back on the top of their own to-do list! We talk about delegating, letting go, accepting, sanity, priorities and many other topics. Nothing inspires me more than to inspire others and help them to re-discover their authentic self!
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